Tag: Social Media

  • The Cost of Turning Everything Into the Enemy

    The Cost of Turning Everything Into the Enemy

    Hey.

    It’s been a little while. Sorry about that. I’ve been meaning to write this post for the better part of at least two weeks now, if not longer. Life has kept me busy, and the world at large has just been… Heavy. Which is, perhaps, the biggest understatement of the year.

    The thing that I’ve been struggling with the most over the past several months, however, is how unsettling it is to watch the people closest to you change slowly and radically in response to world events. More and more often, it feels like online content is shaping people faster than our real lives ever could. And once we take a little peek into the systems that social media platforms employ to keep us hooked, it’s easy to see why it’s to blame.

    Simply put: Algorithms reward outrage. Content creators often make the most revenue by the size of their audience or how many clicks they can get. Even in my own small corner of the internet, I see how engagement drives success. Platforms reward attention, not accuracy or empathy. As a result, many content creators have turned to the practice of “ragebait,” which is the practice of creating internet content specifically engineered to cause controversy. And once that pot is already starting to stir, their numbers are also skyrocketing.

    GIF that says, "Create for you, not the numbers."
    My most honest digital advice.

    A great example of this process at work is the new Star Trek series, Starfleet Academy. Google the reviews and YouTube commentaries, and they’ll have you believe that this new show is absolute “woke garbage.” Even putting aside the fact that being “woke” is actually a good thing (seriously, read the original definition), Starfleet Academy was getting poor reviews before the show ever even debuted. That’s because the show includes people of color, LGBTQIA+ characters, and oh my gosh, a female Jem’Hadar??! Say it ain’t so!

    I can live with folks hating on it for being an angsty teen-targeted Trek (I’ve heard all of the Star Trek 90210 jokes, thank you very much), because that’s sorta what this show promised to deliver in the first place. But the old argument that Star Trek has always been woke is also true. Kirk and Uhura in the original series back in the 1960’s were one of television’s earliest displays of an interracial kiss! Star Trek has always been at the forefront of presenting an optimistic and progressive future for humanity. It has always treated diversity as our strength, not a threat or something to sneer at. People who are different than us can teach us a great deal about things we never even thought about. Frankly, Star Trek should have taught us better than this.

    But the haters will continue to hate, so long as it keeps paying the bills. But mockery and outrage have a tendency to not only shield people against the discomfort they may feel toward others, but they’re also unsettlingly influential. Mutual hatred can create the illusion of clarity. It gives people a shared enemy, which feels like a sense of connection, but when it’s built on burning something down, you’re not really winning anything. Don’t the haters ever get tired of that? Hatred is so exhausting, y’all, and life is too short to spend it all on trying to prevent people from experiencing joy.

    Rotating view of Holly Hunter's character of Captain Nahla Ake curled up in the captain's chair with a book.
    And no, I do not find the way Holly Hunter’s Captain Nahla Ake sits in that chair disrespectful. Give me a break.

    Empathy and kindness take a lot more work, but man, they’re so worth it in the end. Sometimes it takes an uncomfortable moment or conversation with the people you love, but it’s an investment toward a better future. Like the one in the classic Star Trek stories that shaped us years ago.

  • Why 2026 is the Year for Indie Social Media

    Why 2026 is the Year for Indie Social Media

    It’s officially 2026, and I’ve decided that this is the year we should set ourselves free from tech corporations!

    I’ve written a lot on this website in the past about my decision to leave X/Twitter and all Meta platforms in late 2024. Once upon a time, Twitter was actually my favorite social platform. The notion of “microblogging,” the method of posting intentionally short updates, was incredibly simple but also surprisingly powerful. After more notable individuals and organizations started joining the platform, you would see breaking news and historical events unfold right before your eyes. It became something that is often described as a “digital town square.” Being a Twitter user sometimes meant knowing what was happening in the news before it was in the news.

    Today, the biggest problem with Twitter (which was rebranded as X) is that the small company that created it grew into a bigger company that was then bought by Elon Musk for $44 billion in 2022. When that happened, and before he even enacted any of his changes, you could see the writing on the wall. He eliminated thousands of employees, created privacy concerns by practically disabling the ability to fully “block” other users, and launched the AI chatbot Grok, which Musk himself described as an alternative to “woke” chatbots like ChatGPT. Grok is, in itself, also problematic. It has a history of churning out political misinformation, antisemitic remarks, and highly inappropriate deepfake images. It’s a real mess over there, so can you really blame me for looking toward bluer skies???

    But here’s the thing: Social media doesn’t need to be a monolith!

    Social media sometimes has me like this!

    I know that by this point, email is pretty much an old standard way of communicating with one another. It’s boring, but it’s the standard for a reason. And that reason is that not everyone’s email is through the same company. I personally still use Gmail, Google’s free email service. But you might still use an old Yahoo! or even an old Hotmail or AOL address? No matter whose server our email resides on, we can still send mail to one another. It doesn’t even really matter what comes after that @ symbol! And I believe that we need more social media services and platforms to function this way, too! Why? Because if one day, AOL decides that it’s going to just disappear into the ether like its once-popular dial-up internet service, email as a whole won’t go with it. And if a billionaire like Elon Musk decides he wants to try and purchase the entirety of Google? Well, you can always move your account elsewhere. (Nobody asked, but I recommend Proton!)

    Some folks think that I’ve moved from Twitter to Bluesky because I just wanted to join an “echo chamber” of like-minded Democratic-leaning individuals after Trump got re-elected to office. And while the rhetoric on Twitter was definitely getting nastier, and Bluesky’s community is much lighter, the constantly-shifting political landscape was hardly the only reason for my departure. You see, we suddenly have options when things aren’t ruled over by one singular billionaire or one singular tech megacorp. I generally see tech and gaming-related posts in my feed on Bluesky. To help users get accustomed to what they want to see in their feeds, they also allow users to set up lists and “starter packs” of accounts related to their particular interests. This results in a much warmer reception than the hateful comments paid blue checkmarks are known to put out into most Twitter feeds.

    And fortunately, Bluesky is a distributed social network powered by the same protocol as several other really cool web apps like Frontpage.fyi, Bookhive, WhiteWind, Leaflet, and more. Mastodon, another decentralized microblogger, takes it a step further and allows anyone to host their very own server instance. You just join one of hundreds of Mastodon’s servers, whichever one you think is the best fit for you, and you’re still able to follow, like, and communicate with anyone on any other “federated” Mastodon server.

    At the end of the day, you don’t have to disappear from the internet or scrub your presence from it. If Twitter or Facebook or whatever other evil social media giants are starting to get a little too weird or stressful for you to manage and their content moderation teams/algorithms/AI/whatever else seems like they couldn’t care less, there are still ways to preserve your digital footprint. Ways that allow you to break free from the oligarchy and interact online without the ruckus. And who among us wouldn’t want that?